You’ve probably heard the phrase before and maybe someone’s even suggested that you might have attachment issues yourself, but what exactly does it mean?

Well, attachment is the deep emotional connection formed in the first instance between a child and the person providing their care; the quality of this connection is critical in the emotional development of children. If it’s a secure bond, or attachment, it’s the basis for resilience and positive relationships as these children grow into adults; however, if it isn’t secure – for instance, the caregiver, perhaps through no fault of their own, can’t provide reliable, and also consistent, care this can affect the mental health and future relationships as the children move into adulthood. If a child has many changing caregivers, or they’re insensitive, the child is neglected or they experience trauma, all these factors affect the attachment bond.

As adults, people with insecure attachment issues often find difficulty in forming emotional or physical bonds with other people, maintaining boundaries is hard and they can experience anxiety, mood changes and intense reactions to changes, particularly in their routines, and sometimes engage in high-risk behaviours like substance abuse.

If you, or someone close to you, is experiencing these issues, be reassured that there is help available and therapy is an important part of recovery.

Talking therapy involving one-to-one counselling or as a family can help to address attachment issues, making sense of all the different feelings and addressing the challenges involved; it’s about finding coping strategies to deal with all the different feelings that surface. Starting to understand how past experiences in childhood can have a drastic effect on present relationships is the start of the therapeutic process. In other words, to deal with it, you need to acknowledge it.

It’s also important to realise that people with attachment issues haven’t always had the opportunity to nurture good habits of self-care so remembering to eat nutritiously, exercise regularly and learn self-soothing skills is important.

There is also a lot of online help for attachment issues so these are worth reading through as well. If you feel that you’ve been affected by some of the issues I’ve written about, give yourself a chance to read more and seek therapeutic help if you feel you need more support. It’s important to feel that you can make changes, even if your childhood was lacking in ideal nurturing relationships.

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